There was a story I heard once about a man who sat at the edge of a town. A family moving to the town stopped to ask him how he liked living there. He answered by asking, “How was it in the last place you lived?” They replied, “Oh, it was terrible. The neighbors were rude. We didn’t like it at all.” The man said, “Yes, that’s how it is here.” Next, another family moving to town stopped to ask him the same question. He asked the second family, “How was it in the last place you lived?” They replied, “Oh, it was great. Our neighbors were awesome. We had wonderful friends. We loved it!” The man said, “Yes, that’s how it is here.”

Why the same answer? The man realized that each family perceived the last place they lived as they expected to and would do so again, even if that perception was not accurate. In BodyTalk, we call this a “consciousness of expectation” or a “programmed reactiveness.” It can especially affect us in our personal relationships because if we expect a certain reaction or outcome, we get that outcome – even if it is in our own perception.

Let’s say that we believe or have the expectation that no one will recognize us or our value (at work or at home). Then we look for the ways in which that belief system is upheld. Depending on the strength of the belief system, this can cause us to not recognize when someone genuinely complements us, because even when they do, we continue to feel as though we aren’t recognized or acknowledged even though we were.

BodyTalk has several techniques to shift the relationship we have with ourselves and others. BodyTalk also helps us recognize our own unique talents and gifts as well as those of others. As our own value of self begins to improve then the way we interact with our world begins to change because the way we perceive the world has shifted. I invite you to experience the new perspective BodyTalk can give you in your health and in your relationships.

Kathi Springman

Click here for a downloadable version of this article as it was printed in Natural Awakenings OKC September 2013.


The views expressed are educational in nature and reflect the personal and/or clinical experiences of the author.

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